When I was talking to my wife ( also my best friend ) , had a new insight of how friends/spouses to be.
In our marriage , we were asked to see the Arundathi/vashishtha star . In case you don’t know, it’s a binary star combination, rotating around each other , and not one in center, and another rotating around it.My new insight is,
The same attraction ( gravity ) energy which keeps them together , also keeps it separate .
Too much attraction, then the stars will come very closer and destroy each other. Less attraction ( gravity) then both will drift apart.
Would’nt it be great, if friends ( applicable to spouses also ) remain like that , being together, but allowing the personal space of others to exist, but not too far so both can’t drift away in their own directions.
Another point to note is, as the stars behave like this, because they operate on the natural laws, which does’nt allow for mind, ego complex to operate.